Emotional regulation and nervous system therapy at Mindful Comeback Therapy helps people who feel overwhelmed, shut down, reactive or constantly on edge learn to steady themselves. Rubina Gogna, Registered Psychotherapist trained in Somatic Experiencing and EMDR, combines body based work with DBT skills to help your nervous system reset from survival mode. Sessions are virtual anywhere in Ontario, or in person at our Ajax office.
Signs your nervous system is stuck in survival mode
- Going from zero to a hundred, then feeling guilty after
- Shutting down, going numb or blanking out under stress
- Feeling wired and exhausted at the same time
- Trouble sleeping, tight chest, clenched jaw or stomach issues
- Overthinking everything and struggling to switch off
- People pleasing to keep the peace, then feeling resentful
What emotional regulation really means
Emotional regulation is not about suppressing feelings or staying calm all the time. It is the ability to feel strong emotions without being taken over by them, and to come back to steady ground afterwards. Many of us never learned this growing up, especially in families where emotions were dismissed, explosive or not talked about.
The window of tolerance
Everyone has a zone where they can handle stress and still think clearly, often called the window of tolerance. Chronic stress, trauma and burnout shrink that window, so small things push you into fight, flight or shutdown. Therapy helps widen it, so you can stay present and make choices instead of reacting.
How nervous system therapy works
- Somatic therapy: noticing body sensations and gently releasing stored stress
- DBT skills: practical tools for distress tolerance and managing intense emotions
- EMDR: processing memories that keep setting off your alarm system
- Inner child work: understanding where your reactions first started
- Daily practices: breath, movement and grounding tools you can use between sessions
What a nervous system reset is, and is not
A nervous system reset is not a one time trick. It is a gradual process of teaching your body that it is safe enough to rest. Short tools like slow breathing or grounding can help in the moment, and therapy builds lasting change over time. Science first, feeling second.
Frequently asked questions
What is nervous system regulation therapy?
It is therapy that works with your body as well as your thoughts, helping your nervous system move out of chronic fight, flight or shutdown. It often includes somatic therapy, DBT skills and EMDR.
How do I reset my nervous system?
In the moment, slow exhales, grounding through your senses and gentle movement can help. Lasting change usually comes from regular practice and therapy that addresses what keeps your system on high alert.
Is emotional dysregulation a sign of ADHD or trauma?
It can be linked to ADHD, trauma, anxiety, Borderline Personality Disorder or long term stress. You do not need a diagnosis to start working on it in therapy.
What is somatic therapy?
Somatic therapy focuses on body sensations to release stress your body is still holding. Rubina is trained in Somatic Experiencing.
How much does it cost?
Individual intake sessions are $290 and ongoing sessions are $200. Sliding scale spots are offered when available.
Is it available virtually in Ontario?
Yes. Somatic and nervous system work can be done over secure video anywhere in Ontario, and in person at our Ajax office.
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Written by Rubina Gogna, Registered Psychotherapist, with over a decade of experience. Trained in EMDR and Somatic Experiencing. Sessions in English, Hindi and Punjabi. About Rubina